Join a married for life group
Why? Because it gives us the opportunity to do life together with other couples. Because we are better off together rather than being alone. Because we need a community to discuss the real issues in our lives. Because we all need a safe place to support and be supported by one another. Because we can be serious and fun all at the same time. Because we desire to be part of something greater than ourselves.
M4L Life Groups November 15 - December 13 at 7:00 PM
“Cherish": The One Word That Changes Everything for Your Marriage
Millions of couples getting married have pledged to 'love and to cherish, until death do us part.' Most of us understand and get the love part... but what does it mean to cherish our spouse? Why do we say it once at the wedding and then rarely even mention it again?
In his book, Gary Thomas draws on personal stories and teachings from the Bible to show how cherishing can have a powerful effect on marriage. Learning to truly cherish each other turns marriage from an obligation into a delight. It lifts marriage above a commitment to a precious priority. Cherish is the melody that makes a marriage sing.
Many couples today survive by gritting their teeth and holding on. Or they find themselves just "going through the motions" in their relationship. But cherishing our spouse can reverse this pattern. Cherishing can breathe light, hope, and new life into a marriage—even one marred by neglect and disrespect.
Wednesday Night Childcare & Children’s Programming
We know that it can be challenging to figure out childcare for your littlest kiddos midweek, but we don’t want this to be a reason why you can’t make it to your Wednesday night Life Group . . . SO . . . we provide the childcare for you on campus, free of charge!
Newborn to kindergarten age children are cared for and cuddled while mommies and daddies are encouraged and strengthened in their walks with God and their relationships with each other.
We also have an awesome children’s ministry that has programming for your first through sixth graders on Wednesdays from 7-9pm. While you’re growing in your faith, your kiddos are too!
KACC would love to be a part of your special day! If you would like to have your wedding on campus or would like a KACC pastor to perform your wedding, please follow the process outlined below.
You and your fiancé must complete a minimum of pre-marital counseling sessions with Pastor Edgar Garcia or another Pastor on staff.
You and your fiancé will contact our wedding coordinator, Leslee Marvin, to check the availability for your wedding date.
Once you have verified availability and counseling has been scheduled you will meet with our wedding coordinator to sign the wedding contract, place your deposit, and review wedding details. A deposit in the amount of $150 is required to secure our facilities. Once the deposit and contract are received, we will reserve the church for the date of your choosing.
PREPARE/ENRICH is a customized couple’s assessment completed online that identifies a couple’s strength and growth areas. It is one of the most widely used programs for premarital counseling and premarital education. It is also used for marriage counseling, marriage enrichment, and dating couples considering engagement. Based on a couple’s assessment results, a trained facilitator (Pastor Edgar and April Garcia) will provide 4-8 feedback sessions in which they will help the couple discuss and understand their results as they are taught proven relationship skills.
PREPARE/ENRICH has led the way in helping couples explore and strengthen their relationships. The main component of the program is an online survey you each complete in about 30-45 minutes. PREPARE/ENRICH is not just any survey. The items you respond to are based on research and are intended to help you identify the unique strengths and potential growth areas of your premarital or married relationship. Pastor Edgar and April Garcia have been trained to provide feedback by helping you understand your results and learn important relationship skills. Built on a solid research foundation, PREPARE/ENRICH has been improved and refined over the years to become one of the best, most effective, easy-to-use relationship assessment tools available.
What are the major goals of the PREPARE/ENRICH Program?
There are several goals of the PREPARE/ENRICH Program. In order to achieve these goals there are exercises designed to help couples improve their relationship skills. The program helps couples:
- Explore strength and growth areas
- Strengthen communication skills
- Identify and manage major stressors
- Resolve conflict using the Ten Step Model
- Develop a more balanced relationship
- Explore family of origin issues
- Discuss financial planning and budgeting
- Establish personal, couple and family goals
- Understand and appreciate personality differences
Traditionally, an Honorarium is given to the Pastor for the time he invests with the bride and groom. It is generally a minimum of $200 which includes service planning, rehearsal, the ceremony and travel. Honorariums are not set, but decided upon by the couple to be married.
We know that your wedding day is one of the most special days of your life and we would be privileged to be a part of your big day!
What We Believe
We believe God, not man, created marriage. We believe marriage was the first institution designed by God. We believe the Bible teaches that the covenant of marriage is sacred and lifelong. The Bible makes it clear that marriage is a legally binding public declaration of commitment and a private consummation between one man and one woman, never between the same sex. Therefore, we believe God gives a wife to a husband and a husband to a wife, and they are to receive one another as God’s unique and personal provision to help meet their mutual needs.
We believe God created marriage for the purpose of couples glorifying God as one flesh, parenting godly children, and enjoying sexual pleasure. As iron sharpens iron, we believe God uses marriage to sharpen a man and woman into the image of Jesus Christ. Just as the Trinity reflects equal worth with differing roles, we believe God created a man and a woman with equal worth but with differing roles and responsibilities in marriage.
Finally, we declare the marriage commitment must be upheld in our culture as that sacred institution of God in which men and women can experience the truest sense of spiritual, emotional, and physical intimacy, so that the two can become one. (Genesis 2:18-25; Ephesians 5:30-32; 1 Corinthians 7:3; Matthew 19:4-6; Mark 10:6-9, 12:25; Proverbs 27:17; Romans 1:26-27, 8:29; Hebrews 13:4; Matthew 22:30; Deuteronomy 24:5; Song of Solomon)
We believe the Bible clearly states that marriage is the only context for sexual intimacy. We believe contemporary culture is pressing single people to engage prematurely in acts that are intended only for the context of marriage. Our culture has rejected God’s plan for intimacy by promoting sexual promiscuity of various kinds and, as a consequence, has brought upon itself sexual diseases and relational dysfunctions.
We believe in sexual purity and fidelity. Therefore, we are committed to training parents to teach their children at an early age to respect their sexuality and to preserve their virginity and purity until marriage. We are committed to communicating the message to teenagers, single adults, and married couples that sexual intimacy is available only in the context of marriage. (Genesis 2:24-25; Romans 1:24-27; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8)
We believe God’s plan for marriage is that it be a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman. We believe God hates divorce. We believe divorce brings harm to every person involved. Therefore, reconciliation of a marriage should be encouraged and divorce discouraged. We also believe that God allows for divorce in certain situations, not because He wills it, but because of the hardness of people’s hearts.
We believe the Bible teaches that God allows for divorce in the case of adultery and in the case where an unbelieving spouse has chosen to abandon the commitment of marriage. We believe, however, that it is God’s priority that marital oneness be restored and that, through the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ, forgiveness and reconciliation be experienced.
We believe that in the unfortunate cases of abuse and abandonment, God has provided protection for an abused spouse and provision for child support through the church, civil law, godly counselors, prayer, and other practical measures.
We believe God can restore broken people and broken marriages by His grace, by the power of His Spirit, and by His practical truths found in the Bible. (Malachi 2:16; Matthew 5:31 32, 19:3-9; Mark 10:6-12; Luke 16:18; Romans 7:1-3; Romans 13:1-5; 1 Corinthians 7:15)
Hi, my name is Edgar Garcia. I have been blessed with a beautiful wife, April, and have been married for 14 years. We have two little girls, Ashlyn (12) and Joanna (12) and a boy, Elijah (5).
I’m a graduate from University of Phoenix with my AA in Business Management. I also received my BS from Hope International University in Christian Ministry. I have been a member of KACC for 16 years and have been serving as the Marriage and Family Pastor for the past five years.
My goal in ministry is to work with marriages so that they can become marriages focused on eternity. When our focus is on eternity, it changes how we enjoy marriage and everything else in this life. Eternity changes how we love. It would be unloving to get my wife and kids so focused on this life that they are unprepared for the next. Christians can emphasize marriage so much that it might lead some to believe that the goal of Christianity is to have a happy marriage, and God becomes a means to that end. I hear Christians thank God for their families more than they thank Him for the cross. Obviously, God wants us to love our families, but let’s be careful so we don’t get our priorities mixed up. Because divorce runs so rampant, even in the church, it makes sense that we tend to overcompensate by emphasizing marriage more than Scripture does. But by doing so, we may be hurting marriages rather than mending them. Couples become self-centered, rather than mission-focused. Singles who once radically served Jesus now spend their days merely improving and enjoying their marriage. Either that, or they quarrel incessantly and spend their days in counseling and despair. Either way, they become virtually worthless for Kingdom purposes. It doesn’t have to be this way. This is why Paul wrote, “I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord” (1 Corinthians 7:35).
We at M4L are dedicated to cultivating marriages that are Kingdom minded and Kingdom focused!